How to overcome Rejection

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  Finding Strength in What Broke You

Let’s be honest,  rejection can make even the strongest person question their whole existence.
You’ll be fine one moment, singing along to Burna Boy, and then boom — one “We regret to inform you” email and your confidence vanishes faster than your salary at month-end.

And don’t even get me started on relationship rejection. That one is a different kind of pain. You’ll be there scrolling through their WhatsApp status like a detective with Wi-Fi, whispering, “So you moved on that fast?”

The Emotional Stages of Rejection (Nigerian Edition)

  1. Denial – “Maybe they didn’t see my message.” (They did. They just aired you.)

  2. Anger – “After everything I did?!”

  3. Negotiation – “Maybe if I just post a fine picture, they’ll remember I exist.”

  4. Depression – That’s when the ice cream, soft music, and night crying enter the group chat.

  5. Acceptance – When you finally delete their number but still know it by heart.

Rejection will humble you in 4K quality. It’ll turn a strong woman into a philosopher and a confident man into a motivational speaker overnight. But here’s the twist — it’s not the end.


 Sometimes, Rejection is God’s “No Be That One”

See ehn, sometimes rejection is not wickedness, it’s mercy in disguise.
You wanted that job so badly, but if you had entered, the stress there would’ve made you start your own prayer ministry.
That person you were crying for? Give it 6 months, you’ll see them post something and say, “Ah! God really saved me.”

Rejection is not always punishment. Sometimes it’s protection from nonsense.

The Art of Moving On (Without Losing Your Mind)

You don’t need to prove anything to anyone who rejected you.
You don’t need to glow up out of revenge, glow up in peace.
Block, unfollow, detox, drink water, journal, and go and sleep.

And please, stop stalking their Instagram at midnight. You’re not an FBI agent — you’re just hurting your own peace. 

When you finally let go, that’s when life brings better things.
Because rejection isn’t really about being unwanted — it’s life saying, “Your chapter with that person/place is over. Turn the page.”


Breathe, Don’t Break

Here’s the truth: rejection hurts, but it also builds emotional muscle.
It teaches you to clap for yourself even when no one else does.
It reminds you that your value isn’t determined by who chooses you — it’s defined by how you choose yourself, again and again.

So, my dear overthinker, stop replaying the rejection like a Nollywood flashback.
Stand up. Eat your plantain chips. Drink water.
And journal your way back to peace. 

That’s why I made the 7-Day Stress Relief Journal — for moments like this when life says “no,” and you need to breathe before you break.
It’ll help you:
 Calm your mind (especially before you send that emotional text).
 Release stress and bitterness.
 Return to your peace,  where your real power lives.

 Start your journey here: https://selar.com/tjd3155135


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