Growing With Peculiar

 A Fresh Start with Deeper Intention As we enter a new month and approach the end of another year, there is a quiet invitation in the air, a call to pause, reflect, and realign. This season asks a very simple question: Who are you becoming? Below is your gentle guide into this new month and the final stretch of the year. Start the new month and end of year with clarity, intention, and confidence. This blog helps you reflect, reset, and step into the strongest version of yourself. What Do You Want From This Month? Every month comes with a fresh emotional tone. Ask yourself honestly: What do I want this month to feel like? Peace? Momentum? Clarity? Stability? Renewal? Naming what you want is the first step toward creating it. What Needs to End With This Year? As the year wraps up, not everything needs to follow you into the next one. It could be: Overthinking Self-doubt Old habits Painful cycles People who drain you Stories you no longer believe Give yours...

  Stepping Boldly into Your ‘I Am the Prize’ Energy” Some weekends call for softness. This one calls for attitude . Because buddy, let’s be honest, somewhere between life, stress, people-pleasing, and trying to “stay humble,” you forgot who you are. So today, we’re resetting that energy. Let’s talk about stepping fully into your “I am the prize”  confidence, the kind that makes you walk differently, think differently, and choose differently. Let’s go. Step into your “I am the prize” energy this weekend with bold self-worth, confidence, and alignment. This empowering guide helps you embrace your value, set stronger boundaries, and show up like the upgrade you truly are. What Made You Forget That You Are the Prize? Life has a funny way of dulling your shine: Someone didn’t appreciate you A relationship drained you Stress piled up You gave too much You stopped receiving But here’s the bold truth: None of those moments changed your value. They only changed yo...

  How Do You Know When It’s Time to Evolve? Before you can step into the new version of yourself, you must recognize the signs that the old version is no longer serving you. Most people don’t realize they’re evolving, they just feel: Restless Unmotivated Disconnected Hungry for something deeper Tired of repeating old cycles These are not signs of failure. They’re signs of transformation . Your spirit is trying to stretch. How Do You Discover Who You’re Becoming? The next version of you is already forming inside you, you just need to uncover it. Ask yourself: What habits no longer feel aligned? Discomfort reveals growth. What version of me feels more authentic? Bold, soft, disciplined, creative, peaceful? What do I feel drawn to lately? New interests, new people, new routines, new desires. What parts of me feel “too big” for my old life? Those are your clues. Your future self is already sending signals. How Do You Release the Old Version of Yourself?...

A gentle reminder that love should never cost you yourself Some people don’t just love, they merge . Little by little, they shrink their needs, their voice, their routines, and sometimes even their dreams… all for the relationship. You don’t mean to disappear. It just happens quietly, softly, slowly. But why does it happen? Let’s unpack it.   Why Do You Start Prioritizing Their Needs Over Yours? When you deeply desire love or fear losing it, you naturally begin to over give. You think, “If I make them happy, they won’t leave.” But love isn’t maintained through self-sacrifice , it’s sustained through balance. Are You Confusing Love With Self-Abandonment? A lot of people grew up believing love requires enduring, tolerating, or adjusting endlessly. So when you get into a relationship, you slip into “prove yourself mode.” But proving isn’t loving, it’s losing yourself. Why Do You Silently Tolerate Things That Hurt You? Because you’re scared that setting boundaries will pu...

  Why Do We Tend to Ignore the Voice That Knows Us Best? Your intuition is that soft, subtle voice inside you, the one that speaks before logic kicks in, before overthinking takes over, before fear gets a chance to cloud things. But most times, we silence it. We doubt it. We overrule it. We tell ourselves it’s “not that deep,” or “maybe I’m overthinking,” when deep down, we know exactly what we felt from the beginning. Yet intuition is rarely wrong. It may whisper, but it’s always honest. What Changes the Moment You Start Trusting Your Intuition? You begin to see truth faster. You stop forcing what doesn’t fit. You detach from what drains you. You choose people and situations that feel safe, not just familiar. Listening to your intuition shifts your entire life because it: Protects you from emotional harm Warns you before something goes wrong Shows you people’s intentions early Helps you choose peace over chaos Guides you toward what aligns with your spirit ...

  What If Silence Protects Your Peace More Than Words? It’s Monday a fresh start, but also the day when the world feels the loudest. People demand answers. Situations demand reactions. Your mind demands overthinking. But here’s the quiet truth: Not everything deserves your voice. Some things only deserve your silence. Silence isn’t weakness. It isn’t avoidance. It isn’t pretending. Silence is choosing peace over chaos , clarity over confusion , and self-control over emotional reactions that drain you. Why Do We Feel the Need to Explain Ourselves All the Time? Because we want to be understood. We want our intentions to be clear. We want people to see our heart. But you don’t owe explanations to everyone. You don’t owe long speeches to people committed to misunderstanding you. You don’t owe reactions to every trigger thrown your way. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing. What Happens When You Choose Silence? You stop fighting battles that aren’t you...

 How Divine Delays Shape You for What You’re Praying For Sometimes life gets quiet. Too quiet. And in that silence, your mind begins to whisper lies: “God has forgotten you.” “Your prayers aren’t working.” “Look at everyone else moving forward.” But let’s breathe for a moment, because today this beautiful Sunday, I want to remind you of something powerful: You are not forgotten. You’re in preparation. Let’s go deeper. Feeling delayed, overlooked, or stuck? This Sunday blog helps you understand why God’s silence is not absence but preparation, and how to trust the process when nothing seems to be moving. Why Does God Pull Us Into Seasons That Feel Like Isolation? Because growth doesn’t happen in noise. It happens in silence. Sometimes the delays you’re fighting are the exact conditions you need to:  rebuild your strength  learn discipline  break unhealthy patterns  heal emotionally  sharpen your spirit  prepare for a blessing you can actually s...

  How Do We Fall for Patterns We Swore to Avoid? You know what’s funny? We often see the red flags. We notice the inconsistency. We feel the shift. We sense the discomfort. We hear the voice in our chest whisper, “This is familiar… don’t go back.” And still, we stay. Not because we’re blind. Not because we’re foolish. But because the heart has its own way of rewriting stories we haven’t healed from. Ignoring red flags doesn’t mean you don’t know better, it means something deeper inside you is still hoping for a different ending. Why Do We Keep Falling for the Same Patterns? Patterns don’t repeat because we want pain. They repeat because something inside us is still searching for resolution, clarity, or closure. Here’s why it happens: Familiarity Feels Safe, Even When It Hurts Your nervous system loves what it recognizes. If chaos is familiar… calm will feel suspicious. If inconsistency is familiar… stability will feel boring. If emotional distance is familiar… aff...

  What Happens When Love Is Not Enough? Love is beautiful… until it isn’t enough. And that’s the part nobody prepares us for, the moment you realize you can deeply love someone and still know you cannot stay. It’s not because your heart failed. It’s because the relationship could not hold the weight of your growth, your needs, or your peace. Sometimes love is loud and joyful. Other times, love is quiet… and painful… and full of hard decisions. And yes, sometimes love asks you to leave. Why Do We Walk Away From Someone We Still Love? Because love alone doesn’t build a healthy relationship. You can love someone and still walk away when: ● Your peace disappears. ● You lose yourself trying to keep them. ● They love you but cannot meet you where you are. ● The relationship keeps taking but rarely gives. ● You’re constantly begging to be understood. People think breakups only happen when the love dies, but that’s not true. Sometimes, breakups happen because love is there, j...

 You Don’t Become Her Overnight, You Become Her Daily We dream about her… We journal about her… We pray about her… But showing up as her? That’s where many women get stuck. Not because we don’t know what to do — but because we don’t know where to start . If you feel stuck between who you are and who you want to become, this guide will help you start showing up as your next-level self with clarity, confidence, and alignment. Learn the practical steps to becoming the woman you keep envisioning. Today, let’s break it down in a gentle, practical, soul-aligned way. What Does Your Next-Level Self Actually Look Like? Before you become her, you must define her . Not vaguely… clearly. Ask yourself: How does she speak? How does she handle stress? What does she tolerate? What does she walk away from? What energy does she bring into a room? Clarity creates direction. Direction creates alignment. A picture representation of a woman on stage addressing her Audience. ...

  Becoming Who You Pray About Isn’t Easy, but It’s Worth It We pray bold prayers. We ask for elevation, love, clarity, peace, and purpose. But when God starts shifting things, stretching us, pruning us, or pulling us out of old patterns… that’s when fear rises. Because becoming the person you pray about often requires becoming someone your past self has never met. Many people pray for growth, clarity, love, and elevation, yet fear the transformation required to receive it. Discover why we resist becoming the person we ask God for and how to embrace your next level with courage and alignment. Let’s talk about it. Why Do We Fear the Very Growth We Ask For? Because growth feels unfamiliar. You’re asking God to expand you, but expansion always comes with stretching. We say, “Lord, use me,” but when He starts moving people, opening doors, or demanding discipline, we start shaking. The truth is: You’re not afraid of growth. You’re afraid of responsibility, visibility, and accou...