Growing With Peculiar

  Growth becomes easier when you stop walking alone. We often think success is a solo climb, that healing, growth, or purpose must be done in silence, all by ourselves. But life was never meant to be a lonely road. Every great transformation needs the right hands, hearts, and voices around it. When you find your community , you find your clarity . Discover how the power of community shapes your growth, purpose, and mindset. Learn why surrounding yourself with the right people can transform your journey. The Energy Around You Shapes You Whether you realize it or not, you absorb the energy of the people you spend time with. Their mindset, habits, language, and perspective can either lift you higher or drain your strength. That’s why it’s not just about being around people,  it’s about being around the right people . Those who challenge you to grow, who remind you of your potential, who call you back to your higher self when you forget who you are. If you’ve ever outgrown ce...

Behind every pink ribbon is a story of courage, healing, and hope.  What if awareness could save a life maybe even yours?   October reminds us that behind every pink ribbon lies a story of courage, healing, and hope. Stay aware, stay strong, and choose life early. October is gearing towards the end and a lot of things have happened on the media space. Netizens even called it Hotober , describing it as one of the hottest and longest months this year. But one thing can never be taken away from October.  Pink October , the month dedicated to Breast Cancer Awareness . And truly, it would be a grievous offence for me not to speak about it and create awareness. Why Breast Cancer Awareness Matters Every year, millions of women are diagnosed with breast cancer across the world. Yet, many of these lives can be saved through early detection and regular screening . Awareness is not just about pink ribbons or campaigns; it is a powerful reminder to listen to your body, check in...

  What you are looking for is also looking for you. We often pray for breakthroughs in our careers, relationships, peace, or purpose. We wait for a divine shake, a door to open, or a miracle to arrive. But what if the breakthrough has always been inside you, quietly waiting for your permission to emerge? We tend to believe something outside of us must shift before our lives can change. Yet most times, the shift begins within, in the quiet decision to stop doubting yourself and to release old stories that no longer define who you are becoming. Maybe the next level is not about getting a new job, finding a new partner, or chasing a new plan. Maybe it is about becoming a new you. The version of you that no longer hides behind fear or guilt. The version that no longer apologizes for evolving differently. The version that finally realizes you were never behind; you were simply being prepared. The Mirror Moment Sometimes life holds up a mirror, not to show you your flaws, but to revea...

 Divine Silence Isn’t a Snub,  It’s a Setup  They say God answers prayers in three ways — “Yes,” “No,” and “Wait.” But the hardest one to live through is wait. Because waiting feels like silence, and silence feels like distance. There are moments when heaven feels quiet. You’ve prayed, cried, fasted, and waited yet nothing moves. The silence feels heavy, almost like rejection. But what if that silence isn’t absence… what if it’s divine preparation? Let’s talk about it. Is God Really Silent or Are You Just Not Hearing Him? Sometimes, what we call silence is simply stillness . God hasn’t stopped speaking — He’s just using a different frequency. When your life is loud with worry, comparison, and busyness, even divine whispers get drowned out. His silence might be His way of inviting you to quiet down and listen differently. The question isn’t “Why isn’t God talking?” it’s “Am I truly listening?” Could the Silence Be Protection in Disguise? You see, silence isn’t alwa...

  Why Do We Chase People Who Clearly Don’t Want Us? Be honest are you in love, or just addicted to rejection? Let’s be real for a second: some of us don’t like peace. We say we want “healthy love,” but the moment someone actually gives it, we start missing the thrill of emotional chaos. We call it chemistry  but sometimes, it’s just unresolved trauma wearing cologne . We chase people who ignore us and ignore the ones who adore us. And the funniest part? We call that “following our heart.” Why are we so drawn to the unavailable? Because the unavailable person gives us something familiar the feeling of not being enough. If you grew up having to earn love , you’ll subconsciously try to earn attention as an adult. You’ll call, text, overgive, and over-explain to people who spell can’t even “effort.” But here’s the truth: love isn’t meant to be begged for. It’s meant to be mirrored . And if you’re the only one doing the chasing, that’s not a relationship that’s cardio. What do...

Authenticity called, she wants her spotlight back. When did authenticity start feeling like rebellion? Somewhere along the line, we traded real for “relatable.” We started curating emotions like Instagram feeds cropping pain, editing truth, and filtering our joy. Every “I’m fine” became a performance, not a statement. And deep down, you know it — you’ve smiled through exhaustion, laughed while your heart ached, and posted “self-care” quotes when you could barely breathe. But here’s the real question: who are you doing all this for? Do you live, or do you act? Most people don’t live they act. Every day feels like an audition for a life we’re not even sure we want. We perform for approval, validation, and applause from people who are also performing. It’s a never-ending loop of pretending a world where authenticity has become the most radical act of self-love. Living, on the other hand, is messy. It’s raw. It’s being okay with silence, stillness, and even sadness. It’s choosing peace...

  Don't lose your Magic Ever felt like you’re just faking it and everyone will find out soon?  Here’s the thing that whisper in your head that says “you’re not good enough” ? Yeah, that’s not intuition, that’s imposter syndrome on speaker volume. It shows up right when you’re about to shine the job promotion, the creative pitch, the love you finally feel worthy of and suddenly, you’re questioning everything you’ve already earned. But here’s the truth: you didn’t stumble into success; you worked your way there. So why does your mind keep acting like it missed the memo? Why do we downplay our wins like we’re allergic to greatness? You say, “It’s not a big deal,” when it actually is. You tell yourself, “I just got lucky,” when in fact, you prepared, showed up, and delivered. Imposter syndrome thrives in silence the less you celebrate yourself, the louder it gets. So maybe the antidote isn’t more validation from others maybe it’s learning to own your story out loud. Ask yours...

  Because connection should feed your soul, not drain it. Let’s be honest, most people are connected but not truly bonded. We have followers, group chats, and endless DMs, yet still feel emotionally empty. Real relationships, the kind that heal, ground, and grow you—don’t just happen by chance. They’re built through authentic connection , emotional intelligence , and intentional communication . So, how do you build healthy, meaningful relationships in a world obsessed with fast replies but shallow feelings?   Are You Being Real or Just Trying to Impress? We often show only the parts of ourselves we think others will like. But the truth is, emotional intimacy starts when you drop the act. Be raw. Be honest. Let people see the unfiltered you—the goofy, flawed, beautiful mess that you are. When you stop performing, you start attracting people who value authentic connection and emotional depth.  Do You Listen to Understand or Just to Reply? Most of us hear, but w...

Calm Down, You’re Not Failing   We live in an age that glorifies the chase. Chasing success. Chasing validation. Chasing the next big thing. Every scroll on social media reminds you of what you don’t have yet the dream job, the perfect relationship, the financial breakthrough, the soft life everyone seems to be living but you. And slowly, without even noticing, you begin to feel like you’re behind in a race you never signed up for. But here’s the truth that can change your entire perspective: you are not behind you’re just becoming. The idea of “enough” has been distorted. Society taught us that enough means “achieved everything.” But in reality, enough means being at peace where you are, while still growing toward where you want to be. The real Mindshift happens when you stop measuring your worth by your speed and start measuring it by your peace. The Beauty of Slow Growth You don’t plant a seed today and expect a forest tomorrow. Growth takes time. Healing takes time. So ...

  Because sometimes, peace begins with “I’m sorry. ” Away from our usual motivational and MindShift talks, let’s get real today about the underrated, uncomfortable, yet deeply powerful act of apologizing. See, some people would rather lose good people than say “I’m sorry.” They’ll go silent, play tough, or pretend they’ve moved on, when in truth, their ego is just louder than their peace. But here’s the thing: apologizing doesn’t make you weak. It makes you emotionally evolved . Apologies are not about perfection. They’re about connection. They’re what we say when we choose peace over pride, love over ego, and growth over guilt. And yes, it’s hard. Because it means saying, “I hurt you, and I’m owning it.” But that’s where the healing begins not just for them, but for you . Because guilt is heavy, babe. And pride won’t pay the emotional rent forever. When you finally say “I’m sorry” and mean it your spirit exhales. You start to heal from the inside out. You stop replaying that ...

  True love doesn’t need a stage to shine. Away from our usual motivational and MindShift talks, let’s dive into a real-life relationship issue.   open proposals , and those moments when a woman publicly refuses the man she’s been dating. It’s a scene we’ve all seen too many times. A man on one knee, ring in hand, crowd cheering, cameras rolling… and then, the heartbreak. She says no. The audience gasps, and social media runs wild. But beyond the drama, there’s a deeper conversation to be had about love, privacy, and emotional intelligence . Should a proposal be open or private? Which one truly honors love? Let’s unpack it with a mix of honesty and wisdom. 1. The Open Proposal: A Public Love Statement There’s something magical about watching someone go down on one knee in public. It’s bold, emotional, and unforgettable. An open proposal celebrates love loudly, and for some people, that’s their love language . It can make your partner feel cherished and valued, especi...

  Love should bring peace, not pressure. In today’s world, everyone craves more than just romance. People want peace, safety, and a relationship that feels like home. A peaceful and lasting relationship is not something you stumble into; it is something you build intentionally and patiently. Here’s how to create a healthy, balanced love that lasts and still feels peaceful through the years. Master Emotional Regulation Before you can build peace with someone, you have to find it within yourself. Stop expecting your partner to calm storms you keep creating. Learn to pause before reacting, breathe before blaming, and talk instead of tearing down. In a healthy relationship, love is not about who wins the argument but about who chooses kindness first.  Communicate With Clarity, Not Conflict You cannot say “I love you” and “You are just like your useless ex” in the same breath. Words shape connection. Communicate to connect, not to compete. Listen with empathy, speak with inte...

Buddy, drop that baggage before it drops you   You know what’s wild? Some of us have been carrying emotional luggage so heavy it should’ve been checked in at the airport years ago. You’re walking through life with invisible suitcases, stuffed with heartbreaks you never healed from, betrayals you never processed, and disappointments you keep pretending don’t hurt anymore. And baby, those bags are showing. 🧳 You smile, you slay, you post motivational quotes , but deep down, you’re exhausted. Because it takes energy to carry pain that’s long past its expiration date. You keep saying you’re “fine,” but your reactions tell another story. You snap at people who mean well, build walls around your heart, and label it “self-protection.” But that’s not peace, that’s emotional hoarding with a little glitter on top. The truth is, you can’t walk into your next season still dragging the weight of your last one. You can’t start a new love story when your heart’s still sending postcards...

  Because sometimes it’s not love that’s broken — it’s how we love.” Let’s be honest, love looks easy on Instagram . Matching pajamas, weekend getaways, “ soft life ” captions. But behind the filters? Whew — emotional chaos , silent treatments , and “we need to talk” messages that sound like judgment day. And somehow, no matter how different the person, the story keeps ending the same way — broken hearts, blocked numbers, and lessons you didn’t sign up for. So… why does your relationship keep crashing like a bad app update? Let’s talk relational wisdom — the stuff nobody teaches but everyone needs. You’re Loving From Your Wounds, Not Your Wisdom Listen, it’s not that you’re unlovable — it’s that you keep loving from the part of you that’s still bleeding. You’re not looking for love; you’re looking for medicine. But here’s the truth: what you don’t heal, you’ll hand to the next person like an unwanted family heirloom. Every argument becomes therapy, and your partner becomes yo...